The Exhausting Project of Being Someone
Most of the suffering people bring into therapy is tangled up in the same project: the effort to be a coherent, stable, defensible self. What if the work is not to build a better one but to need less of one?
Why Knowing Your Brain Isn’t the Same as Knowing Yourself
Pop neuroscience offers brain-based explanations that sound like insight but actually prevent self-knowledge. A psychodynamic therapist on why “dopamine seeking” tells you nothing about your life — and what real understanding looks like.
Why Google Always Tells You to Try CBT
Google recommends CBT for almost everything — but what about the people it didn’t work for? A psychodynamic therapist examines why CBT dominates search results, what it does well, where it falls short, and what deeper therapy actually looks like.
The Switchback Trail to Self: How Therapy Accesses Your Unconscious Mind
Explore how therapy, like a switchback trail, indirectly and gently helps us access the unconscious mind, heal old wounds, and gain profound self-understanding.
The Stories We Tell Ourselves: From Primal Defenses to Purposeful Living
A psychodynamic exploration of how we cope with pain, from immature defenses like denial to finding purpose—and how to tell if that purpose is healthy.
“Crashing Out”: A Psychodynamic View on Impulsive Anger and the Hidden Self
Why do we “crash out” in anger? Explore Freud’s concept of the Id and learn how therapy helps you integrate, not suppress, your aggressive drives for a healthier life.
More Than ‘Just’ Flexible: The Deep Connection Between Hypermobility, EDS, and Your Mental Health
Explore the deep, two-way connection between joint hypermobility (EDS/HSD) and mental health issues like anxiety, panic, and trauma. You are not alone.
The Push and Pull of Closeness: Is It Fear of Intimacy, ROCD, Social Anxiety, or Avoidant Attachment?
Is it fear of intimacy, ROCD, social anxiety, or avoidant attachment? This guide helps differentiate these complex patterns to find clarity and the right support.
ADHD or Cyclothymia? Unpacking the Overlap and Finding Clarity
Struggling with focus, impulsivity, and mood swings? Learn the key differences between cyclothymia and ADHD to find clarity and the right path to support.
The Flight into ‘Up’: Understanding Hypomania as a Defense Against Depression
Explore a psychodynamic view of hypomania as a defense mechanism against depression. Learn how therapy can help you understand and heal this pattern.