When Your Porn Use Causes a Crisis of Conscience
Explore why your porn use might not be an “addiction” but a deep moral or values conflict. Learn how shame, not content, is the real issue.
The Fairy Tale Trap: When ‘Perfect Love’ Is a Perfect Way to Avoid Real Intimacy
Discover how a belief in a Disney-like, “perfect” romance can be an unconscious defense mechanism to avoid the vulnerability and effort of real intimacy.
The Gilded Cage: When Your Success is a Defense Against Your Past
Explore how childhood narcissistic injuries are often sublimated into professional success. Learn the hidden costs of this defense mechanism to relationships, intimacy, and true fulfillment.
Are You a Narcissist? (And What if That’s the Wrong Question?)
Explore a compassionate reframe of narcissism, not as a diagnosis, but as a universal human experience. Learn the difference between healthy and defensive narcissism.
Your Anger Radar: When Sensitivity Is a Superpower (and a Trap)
Explore the pitfalls and benefits of being highly sensitive to others’ anger. Learn how this “anger radar” can be both a source of anxiety and a superpower for empathy.
Are You a “Withdrawer”?
Discover what it really means to be a “withdrawer” in a relationship. Learn why people withdraw and how Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) can help.
From Splitting to Object Constancy: A Path for the Avoidant Man
Explore how the “Performance of Self” and splitting lead to relational avoidance in men, and discover the path to object constancy and true intimacy.
The Narcissistic Catch-22: Too Special to Commit, Too Fragile to Connect
Explore the two paths of narcissistic avoidance in relationships: the grandiose search for perfection and the vulnerable fear of being exposed.
The Switchback Trail to Self: How Therapy Accesses Your Unconscious Mind
Explore how therapy, like a switchback trail, indirectly and gently helps us access the unconscious mind, heal old wounds, and gain profound self-understanding.
The Stories We Tell Ourselves: From Primal Defenses to Purposeful Living
A psychodynamic exploration of how we cope with pain, from immature defenses like denial to finding purpose—and how to tell if that purpose is healthy.
Feeling Pressure in the Bedroom? Why ‘Responsive Desire’ is the Key to Reigniting Intimacy
Feeling pressure in the bedroom? Learn how letting go of the spontaneity myth and embracing responsive desire can reduce performance anxiety and reignite intimacy.
Your Mind is a Sensedoor: A New Perspective on Thoughts and Anxiety
Explore how viewing thoughts as a “sixth sense” can change your relationship with anxiety and self. Learn how mindfulness in therapy helps you observe your mind.