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Mind the Gap

On relationships, desire + what moves beneath the surface

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The Exhausting Project of Being Someone

Most of the suffering people bring into therapy is tangled up in the same project: the effort to be a coherent, stable, defensible self. What if the work is not to build a better one but to need less of one?

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Why Knowing Your Brain Isn’t the Same as Knowing Yourself

Pop neuroscience offers brain-based explanations that sound like insight but actually prevent self-knowledge. A psychodynamic therapist on why “dopamine seeking” tells you nothing about your life — and what real understanding looks like.

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Why Google Always Tells You to Try CBT

Google recommends CBT for almost everything — but what about the people it didn’t work for? A psychodynamic therapist examines why CBT dominates search results, what it does well, where it falls short, and what deeper therapy actually looks like.

This blog is where I share the ideas, questions, and clinical insights that shape my work as a therapist. I write about couples and relationships, therapy for men, sexuality, mindfulness and Buddhist psychology, and personality patterns — the same themes I sit with in my office every day.

My goal isn’t to give you a quick fix. It’s to help you think more clearly about what’s actually happening in your inner life and your relationships — the patterns that keep showing up, the feelings you’ve been avoiding, the ways you’ve learned to protect yourself that may no longer be serving you. Whether you’re navigating anxiety in a relationship, working through a tendency to withdraw, or just trying to understand yourself better, I hope something here meets you where you are.

If anything resonates, or if you’re considering therapy, I’d welcome you to reach out for a consultation.

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