The “Withdrawer” in the Bedroom: How Conflict Avoidance Kills Intimacy
Are you a “Withdrawer” in arguments? Learn how this attachment style leads to sexual avoidance (“intimacy anorexia”) and how to break the cycle.
Spectatoring: Why Watching Yourself Have Sex Kills Desire (And How to Stop)
Are you “watching” yourself during sex instead of feeling it? Learn how “spectatoring” causes ED and avoidance, and discover 3 steps to move from performance to presence.
It’s Not Low Testosterone, It’s High Shame: Understanding Sexual Avoidance
Is your low libido or ED medical or psychological? This comprehensive guide explores “The Body’s Veto”: how shame and the “Performance of Self” cause sexual avoidance in men.
When Your Porn Use Causes a Crisis of Conscience
Explore why your porn use might not be an “addiction” but a deep moral or values conflict. Learn how shame, not content, is the real issue.
Feeling Pressure in the Bedroom? Why ‘Responsive Desire’ is the Key to Reigniting Intimacy
Feeling pressure in the bedroom? Learn how letting go of the spontaneity myth and embracing responsive desire can reduce performance anxiety and reignite intimacy.
Paraphilia vs. Paraphilic Disorder: Understanding the Important Clinical Difference
What is the difference between a paraphilia and a paraphilic disorder? Our compassionate guide clarifies the clinical distinction based on distress and harm.
Reduce Performance Anxiety & Enhance Pleasure: A Guide to Sensate Focus for Men
Learn how Sensate Focus, a sex therapy technique, can help men overcome performance anxiety, ED, and PE by focusing on pleasure, not goals. Find support.
Opening Up: How to Talk to Your Partner About Sex (When It Feels Awkward or Difficult).
For people and couples who struggle to communicate about their sexual needs, desires, concerns, or dissatisfaction.
Beyond the Bedroom: Expanding Your Definition of Intimacy and Rekindling Connection.
For couples and individuals feeling a lack of intimacy, those in sexless or low-sex relationships, or anyone wanting to deepen various forms of connection beyond just sexual intercourse.
Healing After the Hurt: Navigating Infidelity Recovery with Emotionally Focused Therapy.
For couples reeling from the discovery or disclosure of an affair, seeking a path towards healing, understanding, and potentially rebuilding their relationship.
Beyond Technique: A Man’s Guide to Authentic Sexual Performance & Fulfillment.
Tired of “tips and tricks” that don’t last? Learn why true sexual fulfillment comes from authenticity, not performance. A guide for men on overcoming anxiety and finding deep connection.
Erectile Dysfunction: When It’s More Than Physical – A Sex Therapist’s Perspective for Men
Explore how psychological factors contribute to erectile dysfunction and cane be addressed in therapy.